Stacey Donald Thrale

Stacey married Jane McPhillips [Group Sheet] [Family Chart]

Stacey married Hayley Johnson [Group Sheet] [Family Chart]

Stacey married Charlotte Louise Prescott [Group Sheet] [Family Chart]

Other Events and Attributes:

• Physical Description: 5'11'' slim blue eyes, black hair
• Education: Between 31 Aug 1936 and 30 Oct 1942; Childs Hill School. Leaving comments of headmaster were "Kenneth Thrale is a very intelligent boy and an enthusiastic worker. He is reliable and trustworthy."
• Hobbies: 1938; Boy Scout membership
• Military Service: 1944; Air Cadets
• Occupation: c. 1944-1945; General Post Office, telecommunications engineer. Left because he couldn't get up in the mornings. His foreman unsuccessfully went to visit Ken's parents to dissuade him from leaving the GPO.
• Residence: Between Apr 1959 and Sep 1959, Cricklewood, Middlesex, England; 10 Westcroft Way
• Residence: Between Oct 1959 and 5 Mar 1978, Kingsbury, Middlesex, England; Address:
  29a Doreen Avenue
• Property: 6 Mar 1978, Kingsbury, Middlesex, England; Address:
  96 Birchen Grove
• Occupation: 1950-1987; House painter and decorator
• Probate: 29 Oct 1987

Notes:

As a young child was close to his mother, always wanting to be around her.

Christened:
Sponsor: Frances Gatenby

Buried:
Service conducted in East Chapel. Ashes buried in Horder Garden, plot H15.

Kenneth married Shirley Helen Block on 04 Sep 1959 in Willesden, Middlesex, England. Shirley (daughter of Henry Block and Leah Abrahams) was born on 11 Jan 1937 in Mile End, Stepney, Middlesex, England; died on 27 Sep 2000 in Kensington, Middlesex, England; was cremated on 04 Oct 2000 in Golders Green, Middlesex, England. [Group Sheet] [Family Chart]

Other Events and Attributes:

• Medical: Brown eyes, brown hair. 5 foot 8 inches Blood group: A. Rhesus +ve. W.R.Kahn -ve
• Note: c 1941; As a result of Henry Block's military service, Shirley did not know her father until she was 3 or 4 years old.
• Residence: c 1941, Berkhampstead, Hertfordshire, England; Evacuated to Berkhampstead with mother Leah during WWII whilst father was away in service. Enjoyed this very much and liked Berkhampstead. Probably 39 Ellesmere Road
• Residence: 11 Sep 1942, Willesden, Middlesex, England; 3 Avenue Mansions, Park Avenue
• Note: Dec 1944; Army issue Christmas card sent to daughter Shirley (then aged 7) for Christmas 1944.
• Education: Between 1949 and 1954, Willesden, Middlesex, England; Dudden Hill Secondary School
• Occupation: Mar 1955; Shorthand typist, National Bank of India
• Education: 1954-1956, Hendon, Middlesex, England; Hendon Technical College
• Residence: 11 Jan 1958, Kilburn, Middlesex, England; 3 Christchurch Avenue
• Residence: Sep 1959, Willesden, Middlesex, England; 33 St Paul's Avenue
• Occupation: Between 1970 and 1972, Willesden, Middlesex, England; School Secretary, Princess Frederica Infants School, College Road
• Occupation: Between 1972 and 1975, Wembley, Middlesex, England; School Secretary, Chalkhill Primary School
• Occupation: Between 1975 and 1979, Wembley, Middlesex, England; Personal Assistant / secretary to Director of Housing Brent Council
• Property: Aft 6 Mar 1978, Kingsbury, Middlesex, England; Address:
  96 Birchen Grove
• Occupation: Between May 1979 and 1 Nov 1985; Housing Advisor
• Occupation: 1 Nov 1984; Senior Housing Advisor
• Occupation: Between Dec 1985 and Apr 1989; Senior Homeless Persons Officer
• Occupation: Between Apr 1989 and Dec 1994; Principal Homeless Persons Officer
• Property: Between Jun 1996 and Apr 2000, Mandeville, Manchester, Jamaica; Lot 2 Hopetown Gardens, Dunrobin
• Will: 17 Apr 1998; Executors to will: David Henry Thrale (eldest child), Lindsay Cox (only sibling)
• Probate: 8 Jan 2001

Notes:

Buried:
The service was conducted at the crematorium in front of around 200 people. It was a joint faith service, with Jewish prayers and readings by Rabbi Guy Hall and Christian prayers and readings by Pastor Burnett. Psalm 23 which is used in both traditions was read.

Her eulogy which follows was written by her Son David Thrale and was delivered by her other son Stacey Thrale.

"Firstly we would like to thank, Rabbi Hall and Pastor Burnett, for leading today's service. We would also like to thank all the kind people who have helped both Mum and her family. Thank you from the bottom of our hearts.

David and I would like to tell you about our mother Shirley ...

Mum was born before the war in Willesden to a Jewish family. She had a younger sister Lindsay and an elder brother Rodney who died before Shirley was born.

Mum could be rebellious and as a child, she once decided that she didn't like her bedroom because of a cracked window pane. Whilst her parents were out, she and Lindsay swapped furniture between the bedroom and the living room. Of course, when their parents returned home they were not at all happy so they had to change it back again.

Shirley soon met our father Ken not far from here in a Golders Green dance hall. Soon after they first met Mum saw Dad from her bus, so she jumped off and deliberately bumped into him pretending it was an accidental meeting but Dad never knew!

Mum and Dad were well suited as they both liked Jazz clubs, dancing and smart clothes. They often spent many a romantic evening at the pictures, with Mum's 11-year-old sister Lindsay in tow who always insisted on sitting in the middle.

When her parents decided to move to Dunstable Mum rebelled and set-up a flat with her friend Denise when she was 17. She travelled every weekend back to Dunstable, to enjoy the luxuries of their bath. Her kind-hearted parents would both give her money, saying, "take this, don't tell your Dad", and "take this, don't tell your Mum".

Ken & Shirley married in 1959, a little while after she started working for the Bank of India and then Handley Page where she was secretary to Sir Handley Page himself. Mum gave up work after we were born,

Once my brother and I had both reached school age, mum started work again but only part-time so that she could spend as much time with us as possible.

For a short while Dad was out of work. Mum was very strong and made many sacrifices to steer our family through these difficult times. When the rent man called we remember hiding behind the sofa with Mum pretending to be out.

Mum was school secretary at Princess Frederica Primary School and later at Chalkhill Primary School. This allowed her to be at home with us during the school holidays. We have many happy memories, of all day, swimming at Kingsbury open-air pool, Willesden Swimming pool, Butlins at Bognor Regis, holidays in Uncle Brian's drafty flat in Hove & Sunday afternoon trips to buy ice cream from our favourite shop in Childs Hill. Whilst at Chalkhill School Mum gave the headmaster Kenneth Rudge - a budding author - the idea for one of his children's books, a story about a teenager going to a big open-air music festival, just like the famous Reading Music Festival that Mum used to help to organise.

For years Mum worked at the celebrated Marquee club, London's version of the Cavern. When she started there it was a Soho Jazz club. As time changed this small venue became a rock club. Almost all the major bands played there, Thin Lizzy, The Who, Genesis, The Jam & many more. Mum also saw the birth of Punk, and later the likes of Tom Robinson and Adam Ant.

When we were younger Mum took us to see our favourite band - Slade at the Marquee. Mum even got us into their dressing room. Our young impressionable minds were horrified as Mum took us down Wardour Street, taking time to say hello to the strip club's bouncers.

Just like at home in Kingsbury, it seemed like everyone in Soho knew her. That was Mum, she liked good food, music and going out, but most of all she LOVED people.

We often thought that our family was lucky to have so many good friends. It wasn't luck it was because of Mum. People saw her special kindness, friendship, good humour and her special zest for life. Mum would find time to talk to people. She put people at ease and let them know that they were important to her. We remember her many good deeds like putting up a friend of mine whose house had been damaged in a fire. Mum and Dad often told us "You can't choose your family, but you can choose your friends".

When we were older, Mum returned to full-time work as a Personal Assistant to Brent's Director of Housing. She eventually went on to become a Principal Homeless Persons Officer. This brought out the best in Mum, so many different people to mix with.

Shirley and Ken had a long and happy marriage and made many close friends. We remember countless long and happy dinner parties held at our home. As they grew older together they enjoyed many happy foreign holidays. Sadly their marriage was cut short by Dad's sudden death in 1987, five weeks before their 28th Anniversary.

In time Mum met Anton, whilst visiting a good friend in Jamaica. They were married in 1991, and have been together ever since. Mum had a few happy years of retirement living an easy & relaxed life in the Caribbean. Mum lived in Jamaica with Anton for about five years. She made many more good friends there.

Mum dearly loved Anton She was also devoted to Anton's son, Shane and brought him up as her own. Despite the pain she suffered every day, she continued to look after Shane and helped him to settle into his new school. We can clearly see all the good things that she taught us, in Shane. Shane will miss her terribly.

In her last days, David had the pleasure of telling Mum that Michelle is pregnant. Mum was delighted to hear that her third grandchild was on the way and told everyone that visited her. David's good friend Lee then told her about his forthcoming marriage. Quick as a flash Mum quipped "About bloody time!" Even in her last few days, she made friends with nurses and cleaners at the hospital, and told everyone that she was determined to "make this a short stay".

We are all richer for having known Shirley. She has shown so many people that life isn't about money or things, or who you are. It is about family, people, friendship, and love.

Shirley's epitaph is not in the words that I am now reading or those that will be placed on her plaque but is written in the hearts of the many many people who experienced her love, kindness and humour.

I leave you with the words that Shirley used after both her sons were married-off. These words are as appropriate now as they were then ...

"Free at last, free at last, thank God Almighty, I am free at last."

Died:
Died at 4 am whilst with sister Lindsay

Other Events and Attributes:

• Note: Luton FC supporter.
• Name: Herbert Donald Thrale
• Residence: Kilburn, Middlesex, England; Address:
  28 Chichelle Road
• Census: 1901; : 6 years
• Census: 2 Apr 1911, 12 High Street, Wheathampstead, Hertfordshire, England; Errand boy, single; : 16
• Physical Description: Sep 1914; Army medical examination on enlistment aged 19 years, 6 months. Height 5 feet 7 inches. 34" chest. Good vision and good physical development. However, daughter Olga Thrale later recalled that her father was Mum said he was 6ft 3 inches tall.
• Military Service: Sep 1914 - 05 May 1919; Enlisted with 17th County of London Battalion as Private 3097 in St Albans. Transferred to Royal Engineers. WR11368 & 551343. Transferred to Labour Corps 282425. Discharged at Purfleet Essex. Served in France. According to his son Brian Thrale, during WWI Herbert stabbed a German in the hand and ran away.
• Occupation: 28 Sep 1920-28 Aug 1928; Journeyman house painter
• Residence: 28 Aug 1928, Kilburn, Middlesex, England
• Residence: 1932 - 1935, 89 Netherwood Street, Kilburn, Middlesex, England
• Residence: 1949, 10 Westcroft Way, Cricklewood, Middlesex, England
• Occupation: 4 Sep 1959; Turner, Clockmaker
• Residence: Bef 1960, 8a Leamington Road, West Hampstead, Middlesex, England
• Occupation: 18 Mar 1960; General labourer clock factory (retired)

Notes:

Herbert was said to be a bundle of fun. Although, he could also sometime be drunk and violent towards his wife. However, he came home one day and said he would never drink alcohol again with one exception, when his son Kenneth David Thrale got married, he didn't drink again until he died.

Name:
Grandson Stacey Donald Thrale, named in his memory.

Died:
Certified after post-mortem without inquest. Herbert died from a heart attack on the toilet on the morning of his last day at work before he retired.

Herbert married Rose Spittle on 28 Sep 1920 in Registry Office, Willesden, Middlesex, England. Rose (daughter of Henry Charles Spittle and Elizabeth Chamberlain) was born on 15 Jan 1894 in 58 Church Street, Leighton Buzzard, Bedfordshire, England; died on 9 Mar 1973 in Hampstead, Middlesex, England; was buried on 15 Mar 1973 in Golders Green, Middlesex, England. [Group Sheet] [Family Chart]

Other Events and Attributes:

• Name: Rose Spittles
• Occupation: Telephonist at the War Office
• Census: 31 Mar 1901, 58 Church Street, Leighton Buzzard, Bedfordshire, England; : 7
• Occupation: 28 Sep 1920; Milliner
• Residence: 28 Sep 1920, 32 Saxon Road, Luton, Bedfordshire, England
• Residence: 5 Aug 1937, 10 Westcroft Way, Cricklewood, Middlesex, England
• Note: 25 Dec 1970
• Residence: 9 Mar 1973, 8a Leamington Road, West Hampstead, Middlesex, England; Address:
  01 794 6017

Notes:

Died:
£10,000 was found under her bed mattress shortly after her death.

Notes:

Married:
Marriage witnessed by W D Guyler & J Guyler (nephew)

Other Events and Attributes:

• Alias: Henry's Hebrew name (shem ha-kodesh) was "Nechamia Binyamin Yaakov Hacohen"
• Occupation: Luton, Bedfordshire, England; Milliner (see Michael Bloch); : City Millners
• Religion: Soho, Middlesex, England; Member of West End Great Synagogue, 21 Dean Street
• Census: 2 Apr 1911, Fieldgate Mansions, Romford Street, Stepney, Middlesex, England; Benjamin born Russia. Married for 9 years. Cap maker. Rebecca 32, Samuel 8, Henry 6, Michal 4, Rosa 2.; : 33; Address:
  162 Fieldgate Mansions
• Residence: 1924, Whitechapel, Middlesex, England; 154 Fieldgate Mansions, Romford Street
• Residence: Abt 1928-2 Aug 1931, Whitechapel, Middlesex, England; 163 Romford Street
• Residence: Abt 1934, Fieldgate Mansions, Romford Street, Stepney, Middlesex, England ; Address:
  94 Fieldgate Mansions
• Residence: Abt 1938, Berkhampstead, Hertfordshire, England; 39 Ellesmere Road, Berkhamstead, Hertfordshire
• Military Service: 1943 - Dec 1944; Private, Royal Army Medical Corps, 98th GRV HOS
• Note: Dec 1944
• Residence: 25 May 1945, Willesden, Middlesex, England; 3 Avenue Mansions, Park Avenue

Notes:

Henry had a habit of always pulling his trousers up when he stood-up, and would always cut his sandwiches at work with his work shears!

Buried:
Plot W349

Henry married Leah Abrahams (Lily) on 2 Aug 1931 in Great Synagogue, 262 Commercial Road, Stepney, England. Leah (daughter of Marks Abrahams and Henrietta Sarah Wells) was born on 25 Apr 1904 in Hoxton, Middlesex, England; died on 5 Aug 1984 in Dunstable, Bedfordshire, England; was buried on 7 Aug 1984 in Western Cemetery, Bullscross Ride, Cheshunt, Hertfordshire, England. [Group Sheet] [Family Chart]

Other Events and Attributes:

• Census: 2 Apr 1911, 31 Fashion Street, Spitalfields, England; Occupying 2 rooms; : 6
• Residence: 2 Aug 1931, 31 Fashion Street, Spitalfields, England
• Residence: 1937, Fieldgate Mansions, Romford Street, Stepney, Middlesex, England ; Address:
  94 Fieldgate Mansions
• Medical: Oct 1967, Dunstable, Bedfordshire; Hospitalised in Luton & Dunstable hospital after being knocked down by a car

Notes:

Buried:
Leah's memorial stone reads .... IN HEBREW Here lies Leah, daughter of Mordecai Who died on 7 AV 5744 May she rest in peace. IN ENGLISH In loving memory of Leah (Lily) Block Died Aug 5th 1984 7 AV 5744 Age 80 Deeply mourned by her devoted husband Henry Daughters Shirley and Lindsay, Sons in law Grand children, relatives and friends For ever in our thoughts.

The grave was consecrated on 2 June 1986